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The Reason for Purity

Caleb Breakey - Monday, May 26, 2014
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The decision to remain physically pure isn’t for some half-baked, because-I’m-a-Christian reason. Nor should it be viewed as the secret ingredient to an amazing relationship or the ticket to a great sex life in marriage. The whole point of staying pure is to obey God both in heart and in body—and to do things his way.

It just so happens that his way is also the best way (a fact supported by secular research). Keeping yourself pure until marriage—originally or from this day forward—esteems God’s grand design, infuses nobility and discipline into other areas of your life, and empowers you to love in ways that are otherwise unattainable. It makes possible the kind of companionship, conversation, sex, and emotional wholeness that most want but no one thinks is real. It’s a huge part of achieving the meaningfulness God designed for every day after the wedding day.

This is the Reason Why You Should Remain Physically Pure. #Dating #Relationships #DatingLikeAirplanes
The wedding is so much more wondrous. It celebrates the beautiful conversion from fragmented to whole and marks the beginning of you and your other as one. It culminates in a stunning portrait of trust, respect, and a deep knowing of one another that no one else can ever touch.

It brings all of the abstract symbolism of marriage into a tangible, transcendent expression. You selflessly, vulnerably, and fully give your body and heart to your other because it’s actually intact. And this expression doesn’t end after the honeymoon. It begins on the honeymoon and carries on through your lifetime.

God’s way isn’t just difficult for difficulty’s sake. It’s beautiful and pure for his sake and ours. He doesn’t just bless purity. He built it into the DNA of fully experiencing love. I like how Dannah Gresh puts it:

“As God looks upon humanity, groaning to communicate His love, He wants to direct our attention to a portrait that comes close to helping us understand. That portrait is a pure, holy marriage."

What are your thoughts on remaining pure? Comment below.


• Men who marry as virgins are 37 percent less likely to divorce.

• Women who marry as virgins are 24 percent less likely to

• Those who wait to have sex until marriage and remain faithful in marriage report higher levels of life satisfaction compared to adults who engage in premarital or adulterous sex.

• Those who wait to have sex and are faithful to their spouse also report notably higher happiness scores.

— Mark Driscoll

What are your thoughts? Leave your comments below

Vickie commented on 27-May-2014 12:10 PM
Amen! This is so true! We have been married for 40 years in August and dated 2 years before that and I Thank God we waited till our wedding night. We have grown so much in the Lord and feel greatly blessed and highly favored!
Caleb Breakey commented on 27-May-2014 05:59 PM
Amen, Vickie. So many young people are being robbed of the incredible, life-long blessing of purity in this day and age. It's encouraging to see stories like yours, praise God!

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